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How long do you have to know someone...

...before you'll take a Disney vacation with them? We just had a couple offer to go on a Disney cruise or a trip to Disneyland with us when we'd just met them for the first time.

Personally, I think it's a bit soon to be "taking our relationship to the next level," and I say that only because I've heard so many horror stories!

Any suggestions or experience?

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We took friends once that we were very close to and that was one of our worst trips yet, sorry to say. But we have taken other friends the past few years and we have turned them into Disney addicts just like us!. I think you really have to know them very very good before you commit to something like that IMO. Everyone is different though.

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Both of our visits to WDW have been with the same friends who had been gogin to Orlando for about 10 years before we went with them. Mrs T had known them for about 20 years by then and I had known them for around 10 years. We'd had a couple of weekends camping with them too, so were pretty sure that we'd all be able to get along for two weeks. We pretty much followed them around for the first week allowing them to show us the sites and teach the ropes. They actually commented that having Disney virgins with them made the trip better for them as they did things they hadn't done for a few years and got a new perspective and enjoyment out of them.

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Dave & I talk about this a lot..we actually don't have any friends we'd like to travel to WDW with. We are so set in the way we "do" Disney having other people along..vets or not..would drive us nuts.
Now, if I ever did a "girls trip" to WDW I have one friend I know I would looove to go with..but we've been best friends since we were 13. So we are more like sisters than friends.

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LOL
Well, wish us luck, we have about 6 people coming with us on our next trip, I have tried to make the statement that I hope that no one has to stick together the whole time, they are mostly coming in couples so I am assuming that people will move around a bit. We said from the beginning that we want some days by ourselves but I would like to be with the first timers on the first day to each park, as we are there for 2 weeks we are doing multiple trips to the parks.
Some are new friends, some are known for about 10 years or so and every where in between.

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Great question! I've heard some serious nightmare stories about taking trips with new -- and old -- friends.

I used to travel a lot with friends before I got married, so I learned a few tricks: you have to agree to be really honest with one another about what you do and don't want to do. There's nothing worse than having someone go along with a plan when they don't really feel like it. They end up ruining it for everyone. sometimes it's much better to just say you're not up for dinner, an attraction, etc. than to go along with it to be part of the group.

Anyway, I think that before I travel to WDW with friends, I'd have to know them a good long time -- and have done a few one or two day trips with them to see how we travel together. People can be completely different when you're with them for a week than when you're with them for a night out to dinner or a movie.

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Definetely need to know them if they are going to stay in the same room with me. If they have their own room and can go their own way if things don't work out then no biggie.

I just recently travelled with friends that I've known for 25 years and after 7 days we were getting on each others nerves. I think that a very short trip is okay but going over 7 days is really pushing it even with the best of friends.

Everyone is so set in their ways that little things become big things after 7 days.

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I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

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Brad wrote:
I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

That's an interesting way to look at it. I fear you'd be tip-toeing around each other the whole time, though.

"What do you want to do?"
"Whatever you want to do."
"No, seriously, I'm cool. What do you think we should do?"
"Yeah, it's OK. I'm up for anything -- you choose."

Ugh.

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SpaceAce wrote:
Brad wrote:
I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

That's an interesting way to look at it. I fear you'd be tip-toeing around each other the whole time, though.

"What do you want to do?"
"Whatever you want to do."
"No, seriously, I'm cool. What do you think we should do?"
"Yeah, it's OK. I'm up for anything -- you choose."

Ugh.

Ugh is right.

I hate being in situations like that with someone you don't know very well and you're trying to go to lunch and then you lightfoot around it forever until you end up eating somewhere you don't really want to eat and then you already feel awkward and like you might not like that person since they made you eat somewhere you really didn't want to eat in the first place.

Or is this just me? sarcastic

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Bella wrote:
SpaceAce wrote:
Brad wrote:
I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

That's an interesting way to look at it. I fear you'd be tip-toeing around each other the whole time, though.

"What do you want to do?"
"Whatever you want to do."
"No, seriously, I'm cool. What do you think we should do?"
"Yeah, it's OK. I'm up for anything -- you choose."

Ugh.

Ugh is right.

I hate being in situations like that with someone you don't know very well and you're trying to go to lunch and then you lightfoot around it forever until you end up eating somewhere you don't really want to eat and then you already feel awkward and like you might not like that person since they made you eat somewhere you really didn't want to eat in the first place.

Or is this just me? sarcastic

See I am to the point that I will just make a decision if no one else would. Happened last night with people we just met. No one would chose which attraction to go to at a Haunted Hayride/House/Trail so I just kind of made the decision because the I dont know shit pisses me off (and jason too, sorry I sometimes do that honey!).

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caitiesus wrote:
Bella wrote:
SpaceAce wrote:
Brad wrote:
I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

That's an interesting way to look at it. I fear you'd be tip-toeing around each other the whole time, though.

"What do you want to do?"
"Whatever you want to do."
"No, seriously, I'm cool. What do you think we should do?"
"Yeah, it's OK. I'm up for anything -- you choose."

Ugh.

Ugh is right.

I hate being in situations like that with someone you don't know very well and you're trying to go to lunch and then you lightfoot around it forever until you end up eating somewhere you don't really want to eat and then you already feel awkward and like you might not like that person since they made you eat somewhere you really didn't want to eat in the first place.

Or is this just me? sarcastic

See I am to the point that I will just make a decision if no one else would. Happened last night with people we just met. No one would chose which attraction to go to at a Haunted Hayride/House/Trail so I just kind of made the decision because the I dont know shit pisses me off (and jason too, sorry I sometimes do that honey!).

laugh laugh laugh laugh

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caitiesus wrote:
Bella wrote:
SpaceAce wrote:
Brad wrote:
I actually might be more willing to try travelling with someone I didn't know as well. It could be a good way to get to know each other and if it goes poorly you didn't hurt a long-term friendship.

That's an interesting way to look at it. I fear you'd be tip-toeing around each other the whole time, though.

"What do you want to do?"
"Whatever you want to do."
"No, seriously, I'm cool. What do you think we should do?"
"Yeah, it's OK. I'm up for anything -- you choose."

Ugh.

Ugh is right.

I hate being in situations like that with someone you don't know very well and you're trying to go to lunch and then you lightfoot around it forever until you end up eating somewhere you don't really want to eat and then you already feel awkward and like you might not like that person since they made you eat somewhere you really didn't want to eat in the first place.

Or is this just me? sarcastic

See I am to the point that I will just make a decision if no one else would. Happened last night with people we just met. No one would chose which attraction to go to at a Haunted Hayride/House/Trail so I just kind of made the decision because the I dont know shit pisses me off (and jason too, sorry I sometimes do that honey!).



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Now that's a good idea; just become the "decision-maker."

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There's actually a worse variation of "I don't know what do you want to do?" It's:

Me: What do you want for dinner?
Her: Oh, anything. You pick.
Me: Let's go to X.
Her: I don't want Mexican.
Me: Okay how about Y?
Her: Nah, we had Italian yesterday.
Me: Okay where do you want to go?
Her: Oh, anywhere. I don't care.

mad mad mad mad

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We just had that conversation at work that most of the heated discussions that are had are about deciding where to eat.

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JustCar wrote:
We just had that conversation at work that most of the heated discussions that are had are about deciding where to eat.

I think food and money are the most volatile subjects! laugh