Tinker Bell I am not... But Disneyland is not a short drive

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Tinker Bell I am not... But Disneyland is not a short drive

So, I have made the executive decision to go to Disneyland for my birthday next year. November 2018.

Here in my dilemma. As some of you may know, I have an irrational fear of flying. So much so that just typing this my palms are getting sweaty and I feel nauseous.

The last time I flew was a few years ago. Joe and I went out to Vegas, the trip out was ok, the trip back... Not so good. Since then, I can't even think about it. We had flights booked to go to Chicago a few months after Vegas and I was sick. I thought about it daily. Finally, about a month or so before the trip backed out. I instantly felt better.

We do have a friend who has a SMALL plane, a Cirrus, I am perfectly fine flying in this. I think it is the fact that if something happens to the plane or my friend, I know how to pull the parachute. I have headphones and he tells me everything that is happening or about to happen, "you are about to hear a clicking noise" "we are going to drop down" things like that...

So my questions

Are any of you afraid of flying

What do you to to help calm your self

Do you know of any reputable Fear of Flying classes

How much is a train ticket across country waiting

I REALLY REALLY want to do this.

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I was 29 the first time we flew and I was deathly afraid just because I had never done it before. At that time, AirTran was still its own company and we chose them because their business class seating offer two comfortable leather seats per row and a free drink for each passenger. Benn gave me his two drinks and the comfort of the seats and the alcohol got me to Florida without being a total mess.

The reason that we never flew before that was because my dad was afraid to fly. He used to get a prescription for anti-anxiety meds just for flying, but as he's done it more and more, he doesn't need them to fly now. So that might be a route to try until you get a few more trips under your belt.

Try flying in a different seat than you did last time or at a different location on the plane. I am VERY claustrophobic. I still have the odd panic attack on the plane when I feel too closed-in/suffocated. I used to like having the window seat because looking out made me forget that I was on a plane, but lately, I seem to do better in the aisle seat because there is more headroom and I can stand up briefly if I need to. I also do better near the front of the plane so that I can't see how many other people are crammed on there with me (I assume that all of the people filing past me are just there to wish us a nice flight and then they are leaving out the back door).

You can do this. It's mind of matter and if you have to, trick your mind!

Obviously, take along something to do. I like to draw on the plane or maybe one of those adult coloring books would do nicely. I have a hard time reading on the plane because depending on how bumpy the flight is, trying to read makes me a little bit motion sick. Take music along to drown out the ambient noise.

DO you remember the story about the guy who tried to take his pet pig on a flight and claim it as an emotional support animal? Well my assistant was so amused by the story that she bought me a little emotional support beanie baby pig for when we fly. Maybe take a little comfort animal or good luck charm along.

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I would definitely check out a fear of flying course, or maybe some hypnotherapy? You can do it, if you can get up in that tiny plane you can do anything!

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alicemouse - I used to fly quite a bit, so I'm not 100% sure what happened to me. I have a lot of people tell me it's because I am now a mom... I've pondered the "drug" option and I am afraid of how I will react to something. I can see me in a "Bridesmaid" type scene getting subdued and kicked off the plane... The flight home from Vegas I took 8 EIGHT sleeping pills, 2 on the way to the airport, 2 at the airport, 2 getting on the plane and BAM as soon as it was ready to take off I was a spaz! I guess my adrenaline kicked in and over powered them. SO I took 2 more LOL. I should have been dead LOL

Robyn - We've chatted about this one. I've been looking for a good class here but guess what?? The ones that are put on by airlines are far away... Can't exactly fly to a class about the fear of flying LOL DAMN!!!! But I want to had your way also, and DLP and to Japan to see my friend (and DISNEY)

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JMed I don't have a fear of flying as much as a dislike of flying now. I have never had a fear, but I hate everything else about it now check in, waiting, strip search, more waiting, connecting flights, $10.00 hot dogs etc. My wife does have a fear of flying though, she will do it but it's not her favorite thing. I will do what your pilot friend does by warning her of upcoming noises " that's the landing gear" The truth is a larger plane is much safer than a small one.
Anti-anxiety meds a are a reasonable alternative and worth a try, I would recommend try taking the meds before you actually leave to make sure you don't have any adverse reactions. That would only make matters worse. You can control your fear. It's only natural to be concerned when someone else is doing the driving. The good thing is you have plenty of time to try several ways to cope with this. You can do this. Good luck!!

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My DH is very afraid to fly. We had been taking the auto train to Florida for years, but our 2015 trip on the train was foiled by a storm that caused significant flooding in the Carolina's. Amtrak called and cancelled our train the night before we were scheduled to depart. Given that this was a family trip, and my entire family was scheduled to fly down to Orlando, our only option was to try to get a flight. My husband took a Xanex, drank a bloody mary and I put a movie on the iPad for him. He said that helped his anxiety drop from a 10 down to a 4. He still hates flying, but he made the decision to fly down for our cruise on the Dream this September (as long as he has a Xanex and a drink).

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I'm not afraid to fly, but I do have off-and-on issues with anxiety. Lorazepam helps. You don't have to take it all the time, just when you need it.

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Thanks for all of the suggestions. I think my best bet would be to "pre-trial" the meds and see how I react to them. I really don't want to make a scene biggrin We are thinking about a quick trip to DC, it's not too long of a flight for us and it's DIRECT. My biggest thing is if it is connecting and I spaz out on the first leg, I won't get back on waiting

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I am afraid of flying. We are leaving for Ireland in 6 weeks, and I am already getting nervous, BUT I am a lot better than I used to be. I used to fly all the time, but once I had my daughter something changed. I did not fly for the first 5 years or so after she was born. I am not a huge fan of driving long distances, so I basically tell myself that I just need to do this. One of the biggest things that has helped me is flying United Economy Plus. Having the bigger area has helped me to relax immensely. It is well worth the extra few dollars to me. I make a playlist of songs that relax me for takeoff and landing--which is the worst part for me. I do not drink or take meds unless I REALLY have to, so I have just kind of adpated other methods to get through. My last time flying, a pilot from United sat next to me and explained all the noises and that helped soooo much. Rent a pilot to sit next to you yay

My mother in law took the train to California from New Jersey. She did enjoy it, but it was at least 3x the amount of a plane ticket plus took 4 days or so each way.

We are going to Disneyland also in November 2018. It's my graduation gift. Maybe we will see you there!

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And, if you can get on that tiny plane, you can do this! There is not enough money in the world to get me on that thing.

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NikkiMouse wrote:
And, if you can get on that tiny plane, you can do this! There is not enough money in the world to get me on that thing.

I agree - if you can take the small plane, a larger plane should be a piece of cake. Of course that's easy for me to say. I don't mind flying, but I still get a little nervous at take-off and I don't like storms one bit. We've been lucky with our flights and haven't had too many rough ones, which I'm happy about as that would freak me out.

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Don't even think about connecting flights. Nonstop both ways. Even if you have to drive to Atlanta to get a nonstop flight.

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This might help...there's an audio version of the interview too

http://fearofflyingschool.com/how-to-overcome-fear-of-flying

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Sid Man wrote:
This might help...there's an audio version of the interview too

http://fearofflyingschool.com/how-to-overcome-fear-of-flying

Thanks, I will check this out when I'm no soooooo sleepy!! awesome

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Well here we are a few months later and I have booked a flight for Jamaica... I leave in 40 days and I am sick just thinking about it...

I am not prepared. I am flying alone and I really hope I can get myself on the plane.

Finally getting around to reading the article Sid Man shared.

Trying to figure out my "underlying cause"

I can do this...

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JMed wrote:
Well here we are a few months later and I have booked a flight for Jamaica... I leave in 40 days and I am sick just thinking about it...

I am not prepared. I am flying alone and I really hope I can get myself on the plane.

Finally getting around to reading the article Sid Man shared.

Trying to figure out my "underlying cause"

I can do this...

Yes you can JMED! We have confidence in you! awesome angelwings

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I grew up flying several times a year, but in 2nd grade my best friend and her entire died died in a plane crash. After that it became pretty difficult. I know that I was just a child, and I didn't really have a choice but to get on the plane again when my parents said to, but it was a lot harder. I still have a difficult time during take-offs, but once we're in the air for about 15 minutes I'm OK again.

I think that getting over it, for me was just understanding that flying was one of those things I needed to do. I still get nervous, but I can't let the fear control me. I think of my friend and classmate every time I get on a plane. Then I say a prayer of protection and just try to let it go.

I do upon occasion take a muscle relaxer before getting in the flight. It's meant to help with my fibromyalgia, but I find that it helps quite a bit with the anxiety too.

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I am really hoping this flight to Jamaica goes well, we are supposed to go to Phoenix in February... and I want to go a couple other places too... crossfingers crossfingers crossfingers crossfingers crossfingers crossfingers

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UPDATE!!

Trip to Jamaica has been cancelled. waiting sad It was a Sandals FAM trip and since Irma destroyed a couple other Sandals resorts, paid in full guests that were booked for the other resorts got moved to Montego Bay.

I cried when I found out the trip was rescheduled. It is while we are at Disney with my family and my friend I was going with can't go then either. I was SOOOOO ready for this. I haven't been nervous or thinking of backing out. Unfortunately I had a nonrefundable ticket so now I am looking for somewhere else to go in the next 12 months. I did have travel insurance and since we have a letter from the Sandals president hopefully I will receive some sort of compensation. If not no biggie. AND, I think I may just go for it with Disneyland. yay

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Ugh what a bummer! But yay for a possible Disneyland trip!