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I think I need new friends...

With my 40th fast approaching, I have so many doubts. Mostly because my NON-DISNEY friends (wait, why are they even friends) are constantly questioning my choice to spend a week in WDW over anything else I could do. I have developed a sudden fear of flying the last couple of years so that cuts down on a lot. AND, I love Disney so it is an obvious choice.

I would love to have some of my friends join us in Disney but most of them really don't get it. I've even been asked the question "how many times can you go to WDW?". Some times I don't even think the hubby (please note I never call him DH because he's not as much of a Disney person as me) is excited as I want him to be. I confessed to him the other night that I have to stop myself from talking about the trip every single day because I don't want to aggravate him. And quite frankly it is making me a little sad. I want someone who is going to be goofy with me and excited and posing with characters and doing the unexpected...

I think after my horrible 2 weeks at work and a drink I am looking for some confirmation that I have made the right decision. And most of all to say thank you to all of you for being so kind and helpful the last few weeks I have been a part of this board. You all really are a great bunch of friends with great advice, awesome pics, amazing explorers and more!

THANK YOU!!!

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I'm sorry you're having a rough time! We're all here for you and will get excited with you! My friends and hubby are the same way, and I have to hold back from talking about Disney all the time!! So I'm glad I found this place to discuss the things my 'friends' find strange to discuss with me lol

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I think it's rare for those couples who both are Disney freaks! We love Disney, but my DH is not wanting to visit every year like I did growing up. Some people get and some don't. I just don't talk Disney with people that aren't into it. I find like minded people at work and we share in our joy! Sometimes, you find the oddest people are Disney lovers and it is probably someone you never thought would visit!

Sorry you are down in the dumps. You will have a great time no matter who you travel with!

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Disney is ALWAYS the right decision, and don't feel bad Eeyore is right not all couples share exactly the same passion for Disney. My DW loves Disney but not until about a week before we get there, she tells me to do all the planning (which I love doing) and she will reap all the rewards of my obsessive compulsive Disney disorder.

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My friends don't want to try disney as adults. Their loss. My partner loves planning as much as I do and hunting for hidden gems. If your husband isn't excited in the planning maybe making more of your trip a surprise will help both of you. Planning surprises can be nice for you because you can learn even more about Disney and then Your hubby gets to be surprised. In the mean time this is the place for all things exciting in all phases we all love talking about our Magic place.

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Just hang with us, hon. We ALL understand.

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That's why I love this forum so much~everyone "gets it!" None of my friends or family, except my DH, can understand why we love WDW so much or why we go so often. There are women who work in the office at my DH job that tease him constantly about how much we go to Disney. They're actually a little nasty to him about it. Saying things like "you don't even have kids" or "I think it's ridiculous that adults go to Disney world without children." He's a kind and patient person, so he doesn't say anything back to them. I just hope they don't say anything to me because I am not as kind or patient as my wonderful hubby! If other people don't want to go, don't go. But don't diss my Disney, is all I saying!

I am so thankful that my DH loves Disney world as much as I do because we go for at least 2-3 days, 10 months out of the year, and it still doesn't feel like enough for me laugh If he ever got sick of going to WDW I don't know what I would do gaah Although, he HATES planning and he likes me to plan every trip and just tell him what we're doing when we get there. Which is exactly how I like it!

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The way I look at it is, We are a unique group of people who have a passion for a place that brings us so much magic to us...I refer to the group of people trying to reach that mountain in the film " Close Encounters of the Third Kind."...It's a bond that we are lucky to have as others just scratch their heads wondering what it's all about..Even when I hold my Disney parties, I can tell who understands what it's all about,and those who think it's just another vacation..

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King Fergus wrote:
The way I look at it is, We are a unique group of people who have a passion for a place that brings us so much magic to us...I refer to the group of people trying to reach that mountain in the film " Close Encounters of the Third Kind."...It's a bond that we are lucky to have as others just scratch their heads wondering what it's all about..Even when I hold my Disney parties, I can tell who understands what it's all about,and those who think it's just another vacation..

I think that's an excellent way to look at it, I'm only 24 and work with people the same age and thy are constantly asking me why I don't spend my money going out drinking on a weekend or going on girls holidays to do the same thing and they can't understand why I travel half way around the world to go to a theme park (their words) the only people I have who fully understand are you guys and my mam so I totally get it

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Thankfully my DW totally gets the whole addiction.We first went in 2000 and have never looked back yay

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Disney is always a great choice. Don't worry you have lots of friends here that totally get why you want to go to Disney. Disney is our yearly trip and I have friends who just don't get it. Sending you some pixie dust and a some Disney love muchlove .

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My DH and I are both addicts and proudly admit it BUT we have family that question why we keep going back. Don't have somewhere else calling (it's not like we live in a cave the rest of the time) and others who tell why spend money to see and do things we have already seen and done?

To them, I just shrug and reply, "If I still goosebumps about going, there must be more there for me to explore."
It's also a reaffirmation that "It's sometimes fun to do the impossible" can be applied to just about anything else in life we face.

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I find that a lot of people who are critical of those that go to WDW often are the ones that have only been once themselves. And on top of that, they might have gone for just a day to MK for example while on a general vacation in Florida. I always say a day trip to MK is NOT a visit to WDW because you're not experiencing The World.

In order to truly experience WDW properly, you need to immerse yourself in it completely. For us, that means staying onsite, using WDW transportation, trying out many restaurants etc.

But, I've spoken to people that just say "oh, we went there once and never again". Again, I just say "if you go just once to MK on a busy holiday, you haven't really been to Disney World".

But in the end, I just don't really give a **** what people think. If we enjoy going, we just go. I don't need to justify my vacation time or money spent to anybody. biggrin

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My co workers talk about the cost as well. Then I talk about how much one night at a bar costs them and compare the experiences. I know disney is our happy place. The reason we deal with the daily madness. This year we are adding a non disney trip to our vacation plans and that was a tough decision. But our extended families have been very supportive in 2013 and we want to visit them in their homes too. For those that don't get it great. That's one less person in line in front of us.

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Magic Days wrote:
...For those that don't get it great. That's one less person in line in front of us.

LOL... so true! awesome
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My husband don't get it and he did agree to finally go with me last year (as friends of ours wanted to go) so he went but I would say it just did it. So that is why I try to go every couple of years with my girlfriend (will be there in May..yahooo). I wish my husband did love Disney like I do because I would much rather go with him but he doesn't but I still love him anyway. As far as for friends that don't get it and I know we all have a lot of those I just say ok your choice and we do other things. And if they say what again? I say yup...and they have learned ok that is the end of that. And they all know when the trip is approaching I'm all excited and even if I haven't told them they say..so when are you going to Disney? laugh And as others have said 'fine one less person in line'...so it is a win/win.
And know that you have people here who all feel like you do so find comfort in that. I know I do.

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Thanks everyone! I know I made the right decision and will not regret it, it is just really tough to hear it all the time. Yes, I have a kid and I have had that WDW experience but this is a whole new ballgame. I almost feel as if it's my first time.

I like the surprise him idea! I am gonna get working on that now. I just have to get my TA friend to keep it under wraps. I was thinking of the Safari but alas, I will need to start pinching pennies for that one. We shall see.

Speaking of, the cost is another thing they talk about. They are also shocked that we are going on a Disney cruise shortly after the November trip. I guess they all don't understand the booking. We planned and booked back in January and we've been paying on it monthly since then. I buy a $50.00 gift card at Target every pay day until we go also... You just have to plan and plan right!

I'm just gonna put on my best Disney Smile and tell 'em all where to shove the pixie dust! Maybe THAT will cheer them all up!

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The way i look at it is...those who dont understand just makes more room for me in disney !! awesome

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Believe me, I know exactly how you feel. I feel that I have to keep my Disney fandom under wraps because my family and the people I know in real life don't get it. Oh how grateful I am for places like these because it's comforting to know I'm not alone.

I mean, I have plenty of non-Disney locations I want to visit, don't get me wrong. But when it comes to Disney, it's a place I'm willing to go back. Not necessarily every year, but every couple of years between 3-5 years sounds more reasonable for me and it's something where all I want is different experience while making sure I relive the same experiences I enjoyed in the past, as well. People spend their money on a bunch of things I'd consider crazy like expensive clothing, season tickets for sports teams, vacation money where they do nothing but stay on the beach, gamble all day, etc

I've already accepted the fact that when it comes to Disney World, they can take it or leave it. I can't control their minds and opinions because they have the last word no matter what. That's also true on various forums when people ask about what ADRs to book, what rides to skip or FP+ for, etc. We can offer suggestions but how they spend their trip is entirely up to them.

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The Disney Fandom I can't keep hidden because I have a LOT of jewelry that at almost 60 I proudly wear, does give the secret away. (not to mention my wall paper, the decorations on my tablet and phone)
But when people comment to our trips, often they chaperoned a school trip (which is okay and can be fun) but not a real Disney experience. When they talk about the costs, I very clearly ask them where can they go for $2500 (for us this year) for a week that includes ALL transportation, luggage all handled, all meals covered (okay we pay for alcohol and snacks and stuff), and get to have a blast the whole time, and mass transportation. And if you're lucky like we are you also have all your dining reservations pre-done and now can fast pass a ride to avoid some of the rides. For that price...only. I don't know anyone else who goes that far away for a week with all that included and is smiling when they get home for that price.

We even have cyber friends who share the joy AND answer questions for us! I wouldn't trade for the world.

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JMed just keep on planning and let us know each step of the way because we will be excited for and with you. I want you to know that I think about Disney every single day of my life. And remember what Walt said, "It all started with a Mouse." mickey

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I think about it daily too! I have started a pre-pre trip report and it made me see some holes! So I may post it soon and see what thoughts you all have!

To keep my mind off the nay sayers, I will share my weekend project. One of my other passions is gardening and I FINALLY have one of my own! I can't wait to get the dirt this week and start planting!!!!

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JMed wrote:
I think about it daily too! I have started a pre-pre trip report and it made me see some holes! So I may post it soon and see what thoughts you all have!

To keep my mind off the nay sayers, I will share my weekend project. One of my other passions is gardening and I FINALLY have one of my own! I can't wait to get the dirt this week and start planting!!!!

Wow I'm impressed. Can't wait to see your finished project!

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JMed wrote:
I think about it daily too! I have started a pre-pre trip report and it made me see some holes! So I may post it soon and see what thoughts you all have!

To keep my mind off the nay sayers, I will share my weekend project. One of my other passions is gardening and I FINALLY have one of my own! I can't wait to get the dirt this week and start planting!!!!

Wow I'm impressed. Can't wait to see your finished project!

Do you ship???? We moved and thus no garden. laugh

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I wish I could ship! I made the hubby do most of the work. wink so I think if I asked him to do double time I would be in trouble! LOL I can't wait to finish it. I have SO many ideas it may never be done!!!!

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JMed wrote:
I wish I could ship! I made the hubby do most of the work. wink so I think if I asked him to do double time I would be in trouble! LOL I can't wait to finish it. I have SO many ideas it may never be done!!!!

JMed it will always be a "work in progress". biggrin

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It's not my fault... it's PINTEREST!!! waiting

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JMed wrote:
It's not my fault... it's PINTEREST!!! waiting

laugh while I do not have a green thumb, whatsoever, Pinterest is definitely to blame for many projects lol

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I've started the search for Disney Cruise pins now! Fish Extenders and all that jazz! mickey

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Love the garden!

Here's my take. Hubs and I work hard for what we have. So whatever we choose to spend our money and time on is nobody else's concern.

The other side. I don't talk about it non-stop with people. Although I don't care if they like it or not, we have friends that take cruises every three months. Have been doing it for years. They also talk non-stop about it to the point, I do everything I can to avoid it. I love to cruise too but it gets to be a bit much after awhile that they can not carry on a conversation without talking about cruising. So I keep that in mind with anything I do (Disney, cruising, etc.) If someone asks me, I'll talk about it, but I leave that up to the other individual. And most of my friends, will ask about it some and I ask about their upcoming trip to ski (although I have no interest).

So yes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being obsessed with anything if you enjoy it. I also try to remember that others don't have to be and that's ok too. So plan away and enjoy every minute of what you are doing and thinking and don't even worry about what others think.